The Cost of Self Limiting Beliefs
This is probably the most common issue I come across when coaching. People doubt themselves because of what they believe about themselves. And these beliefs come at a great cost.
WHAT IS A LIMITING BELIEF?
It is pretty much self explanatory. These are beliefs that limit us. Some of them are easy to spot but others tough to identify. We make these beliefs part of our identity. It becomes a part of what defines us to the point where we don't question it anymore. We simply accept that's the way things are - that's the way I am.
WHAT DOES A LIMITING BELIEF DO TO ME?
When we limit ourselves we see ourselves differently. Limiting yourself means making yourself less than what you are. You make yourself smaller. Not only yourself, but also your world. Ironically, the purpose of a self-limiting belief is to protect you. It's keeping and preventing you from stepping up and out. It's basically your ego playing it safe. Maintaining the status quo. Don't rock the boat. Keep is safe. It wants to keep the boat anchored in the harbour. But you know what they say - boats aren't meant for the harbour.
WHAT DO LIMITING BELIEFS SOUND LIKE?
I can't speak in front of people.
I don't know how to cook.
I'm not good with relationships.
I'll never have enough money.
I'm not good enough to apply for that job.
I can't be her friend she's way too popular.
Our family are just normal people, we can't do big things.
I'll never find the right person, I'm too set in my ways.
I don't have what it takes to write a book, I'm not educated enough.
I'll never be able to run as fast as that guy!
They don't really want to talk with me, I'll just sit here by myself.
They're just being friendly with me because they want something from me.
I have nothing of value or meaning to contribute - my presence doesn't really matter.
WHAT'S THE COST INVOLVED?
Do some of these sound familiar?
What are your top three limiting beliefs? Take a moment to write them down.
What has the cost been of these limiting beliefs to your life? Not only financially, but that too.
Would you like to continue paying the cost involved, or would you rather create a new belief?
Great. It's possible and easier than you think.
WHAT CAN I DO TO SMASH IT!?
Your limiting belief is actually nothing else than a carefully constructed lie you keep telling yourself. And as we've mentioned, reason being to protect you. But instead of protecting you, it's damaging you, your relationships, career, and your future. Time to break it.
Ask yourself - if this is the lie that I keep telling myself, then what is the truth?
Write it down. What is your truth?
Read it. Read it again. Read it out loud. One more time.
What if this becomes your new fundamental truth?
What if you live this new truth, daily?
How would things be different for you in a week? A month? Three months from now? Next year?
Or, what if you don't live this new truth and hang on to the old limiting belief...how would things be different next week, next month or next relationship?
Which one do you choose?
What do you take away from this short coaching session? (what stood out for you)
What do you need to focus on in the next seven days.
Why is it important to focus on?
What will you do when the old limiting belief sneaks in the door? How will you remind yourself of your new encouraging belief?